It's always tragic when a loved one passes away. It's never easy to face up to the reality of not being able to see them, talk to them, visit them..
It's always harder to hear the news when you've known them for years, grown up with them, shared so many memories with them..
It's not all tragic though, as I believe memories live on forever, keeping them alive.
The sad thing about life is there's a beginning but also always an end... I don't believe in god, to be honest I'm not sure what I believe in. I think there's some kind of guardian up there keeping our loved ones safe and free of pain... Just not a 'god'.. I still believe our loved ones are around, just not visible..
My friends and family have lost someone very dear to them and even though she is no longer with us in person, I still believe when someone remembers and shares a memory of her - she lives on in spirit.
My greatest memory of her is seeing her cuddling my baby girl for the first time :) I will never forget that moment. And the blankets she knitted for my Ellie, will be one of the greatest memories that will stay with us forever.
She'll be sadly missed by all.
R.I.P
Julie
Thursday, 20 October 2011
Wednesday, 19 October 2011
A Mother
So it's 7 months, on the 25th, since having my gorgeous baby girl and I'm loving every min of being a mother - even dispite the lack of sleep on some nights, countless dirty nappies, the sterilising of many bottles and the list could go on... But every time I see her big smile its all worth it!
I know a few people that would like children but for whatever reason cannot (yet).. Some I generally fear for the childs welfare as I really don't believe they truely know how much hard work these little people are.. Every decision we make will eventually shape their futures..
I looked up the definition of a 'mother' the result was:
Noun: A woman in relation to a child or children to whom she has given birth.
So, a woman who has children is a mother : Fact
A woman who gives birth to a child: Fact
It's fact as in anybody can technically be a "mother" but it takes so much more to be just a technicality.
I believe a real mother has unconditional love for her children. I believe a woman doesnt have to have given birth to be able to gain the 'mother' title. A real mother is not selfish or cold hearted, as to bring life into this world, who would depend on your every move, every desicion for the rest of theirs and your life, couldn't be.
I believe a mother would do anything she could to protect her children, no matter what.
I love my little girl, she's my world. I believe I have the right to call myself a real mother.
So my point is,
My 'middle' sister, recently married, now looks after 3 children. A cheeky little one (although getting bigger!) and 2 lovely teens, (can you call teens lovely?) :). Did she give birth? No but back to the technicality, does it matter? No? It Takes alot more than to just give birth to be a mother.
I know a few people that would like children but for whatever reason cannot (yet).. Some I generally fear for the childs welfare as I really don't believe they truely know how much hard work these little people are.. Every decision we make will eventually shape their futures..
I looked up the definition of a 'mother' the result was:
Noun: A woman in relation to a child or children to whom she has given birth.
So, a woman who has children is a mother : Fact
A woman who gives birth to a child: Fact
It's fact as in anybody can technically be a "mother" but it takes so much more to be just a technicality.
I believe a real mother has unconditional love for her children. I believe a woman doesnt have to have given birth to be able to gain the 'mother' title. A real mother is not selfish or cold hearted, as to bring life into this world, who would depend on your every move, every desicion for the rest of theirs and your life, couldn't be.
I believe a mother would do anything she could to protect her children, no matter what.
I love my little girl, she's my world. I believe I have the right to call myself a real mother.
So my point is,
My 'middle' sister, recently married, now looks after 3 children. A cheeky little one (although getting bigger!) and 2 lovely teens, (can you call teens lovely?) :). Did she give birth? No but back to the technicality, does it matter? No? It Takes alot more than to just give birth to be a mother.
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